When our dog’s needs get neglected

There are times in our lives when the needs of our dogs get neglected and our own needs have to come first.

Family tragedies, new relationships, starting a new job, the arrival of a baby... we’ve all been there. Some big events swallow us for a while.

Together with the many feelings these situations bring, we might also feel a deep sense of guilt for placing our dog in the background. Indeed, in intense moments like these, our dog often has to deal with more loneliness and boredom while we are focused on what’s happening.

Is this bad? Is this fair? Well, it’s life.

We cannot control everything that happens to us, and sometimes we require time to adapt to a new reality. Remember that you are the caretaker not only for your family, including your dog, but also for yourself.

Taking care of ourselves has to come first, especially during moments of transition and difficult events. We owe it to ourselves and to our loved ones to feel strong on our own two feet.

If we do not take care of ourselves in difficult moments and let ourselves break, then our loved ones suffer greatly too.

What to do about our guilt?

Sometimes we have to see it for what it is and greet it as a friend. The guilt we feel highlights how important our dogs are to us. They are our family, and the last thing we want is for them to suffer, of course. The guilt gives us a chance to appreciate the deep bond with our dog. The awareness that guilt brings eventually helps to keep a balance between our needs and our dog’s needs.

Lean on your support system.

Modern life can feel lonely and isolating, and we are often left with our problems on our own. We have much to learn from dogs, and how social they are. The way they create bonds and support each other is wonderful. And besides us, their primary caretakers, dogs can form deep bonds with other people. If you have an opportunity to find a trusted family member or a dog sitter who can take care of your dog while you are settling your life, it can be a fantastic opportunity to expand their safety zone.

Keep that emotional connection.

Your dog is your family and life companion. They understand and want to see you relaxed and happy by their side. To maintain the emotional connection, remember the rule: quiet moments together are worth more than busy activities. A shorter walk with a quiet break to appreciate the world go by, 10 minutes on the floor or sofa together, a short break away from your phone, kind words to your dog in a pleasant tone — all these matter greatly to your dog, often more than long walks.

On the photo you can see Heidi, Lyuba’s dog and amazing supportive companion, being close to her while Lyuba is going through a tense time in her life.